preocupations with love, life and rotine

I guess one of the hardest things to fight back is routine. Falling into a monotonous set of behaviors that actually helps us survive the unsettling constantly changing world.
But routine is no help for romance, for love life. It hurts it, and that worries me. Many things worry me though... I am a bit of a worry freak. I think about all the possible things that can go wrong and blame myself when they do. I guess tonight, as my body hurts my soul decided to join it. A cloud of thoughts knocks in my mind and my preoccupation with routine and the lack of romance hits me like a wave of emotions I really don't need, so I've been pushing down creating heavier waves. Tonight all I can think about is the difference between the beginning of a romantic relationship and the middle or so of it. How in the beginning nothing is more important than the other one, than satisfying the other part, showing them how much and how far, how real what we feels is. They come first and we show that, from the most simple attitudes to the most elaborate. Time goes by and life takes over, priorities change? Now everything else, work, the kids, the football games, the videogames, and so on... all these things somehow (and I really don't know how) somehow becomes more essential more immediately important. It is never just one parts fault, that I don't believe to be true, we all know relationships take two, two individuals "hard" work. I guess the line that defines how much "hard" work we need to put in, or how much "hard" work we feel we need to put in, i guess this line is damn hard to define.